5 Tips to Motivate an Unmotivated Teen

Teenagers aren’t always known for being the biggest go-getters in the world. We’ve all seen movies and TV shows stereotype teens as “lazy,” suggesting they would rather sleep until noon each day than do anything productive. 

While those stereotypes are often exaggerated, it’s true that some teens can be highly unmotivated. There are a variety of possible factors and reasons that can play into that lack of motivation. But, as a parent or caregiver, it’s important to help them find their motivation and get moving.

So, what can you do to motivate an unmotivated teen? Let’s cover a few tips.

1. Be an Inspiring Role Model

Even if it seems like your teen never listens to you, they’re paying closer attention than you might think. You should never stop being a role model for your child, no matter how old they get. 

If your teenager lacks motivation, show them what it looks like to be productive and to persevere. Work hard, especially when they’re around, and show them what staying on task and getting things done can do. By setting a positive example, you’ll lead them in the right direction.

2. Point Out Positives

It can be tempting to “nag” your teenager when they aren’t doing much. You might point out the things they’re doing wrong or the things they could/should be doing. Unfortunately, this tactic will likely only make them feel guilty, ashamed, and even less motivated. 

While it’s okay to point out the things that need to be done, make sure you’re not only focusing on the negative aspects of your teen’s behavior. Instead, point out the positives. Be encouraging when they do something good or accomplish a task. Let them know you see them. Sometimes, that’s all it takes for a motivational boost.

3. Determine the Cause

Sometimes, the only reason your teen isn’t motivated is…well, laziness. You’re likely to see that pretty quickly. However, there can be other potential causes that are more serious and should get your attention. They might be struggling in school or with relationships. Or, they might be dealing with mental health issues like depression, which can make it difficult to want to do much of anything. 

While you shouldn’t “grill” your teen about their feelings, make sure they know you’re there for them. Do what you can to gently and effectively get to the bottom of their lack of motivation.

4. Understand Their Interests

Sometimes, you can help to kickstart your teenager’s motivation by encouraging them with things they’re already interested in. Start small by investing in their hobbies. Do they love music? Visit a guitar store or take them to a concert. It might spark their interest further and make them want to take lessons. Do they love science? Go to a museum. It might give them more motivation to tackle their homework. 

By catering to their interests, you’ll help them see the rewards that can come from getting out of a rut and taking on different tasks.

5. Keep Your Temper in Check

There’s no question that it can be frustrating when your teen doesn’t seem to want to do anything. But one of the worst things you can do is yell at them. Not only will that not help with motivation, but it can create discord in your relationship. 

Keep your temper in check. When you do, it will be easier to foster positive communication between you and your teen. They’ll be more likely to open up knowing they won’t be judged or criticized. 

While it’s not uncommon for teens to experience a lack of motivation once in a while, it’s easy to tell when it becomes a problem. If your teen struggles to stay motivated, consider using some of these tips to make a difference.